What Not to Say to a Filipino Woman

Honesty is the best policy, they say. However, if you’re being too honest, you might want to reevaluate your options.

When it comes to dating Filipinas, it’s necessary to be cautious about what you say. You could ask a seemingly harmless inquiry, but if you don’t know what you’re doing, you can blow a great opportunity to ask her out.

You wouldn’t want to ruin a perfectly good conversation by blabbing your mouth off, would you?

Though it is hard to think of conversation topics, there are a few things you must simply avoid lest you risk your chances of getting somewhere with her.

Here are some things not to say to a girl you like. Particularly, that Filipina girl you’ve been chatting with.

“You don’t have an accent when you speak English!”

Since English is the second language of the majority of Filipinos, they speak it well.

Tourists are often surprised to discover some Filipinos are fluent in English when they visit the country. When they don’t have any hint of the typical Pinoy accent, they are even more surprised.

Along with the official Filipino language and their native dialect, English is one of the basic subjects taught in school. Even locals from distant regions can communicate in perfect English.

The majority of Filipinos, despite their accents, have a good understanding of the English language and can communicate with ease.

“Do you eat dogs?”

Filipinos, like everyone else in the world, adore their dogs. This is why they refer to them as their alaga, which means “to look after” or “to care for” in English.

Besides, it was never a part of Filipino Culture.

“Are Filipinos Asian?”

Of course! The Philippines is located in Asia, after all.

Even so, the occasional mix-up is understandable. Filipinos are often mistaken for being of other ethnicities due to their mix of Western and Eastern heritage.

Oftentimes, they are mistaken for Mexicans since they resemble each other slightly.

“You look better without makeup”

It takes a lot of practice to master makeup, even for women. They spend their time studying how to apply cosmetics that best compliment their features, and they love it while doing so.

This would decrease your attractiveness by 80% if you were to say it in front of a Filipina.

Women in the Philippines do not like people who judge their hobbies and interests. By taking shots at what she does, you are berating her for her choices in life, and she does not want a partner who is judgmental of her choices.

You may feel it is a compliment to you, but if you do not want to hurt her feelings, keep it to yourself.

“Why are Filipinos always late?”

There is a joke among Filipinos that they operate according to “Filipino time”. At some point, it is true.

However, it’s not something a Filipina would like to hear. It’s one of the Filipino traditions that they’re trying to get rid of.

Several Filipinos are attempting to avoid stereotypes in order to avoid jeopardizing their employment prospects. This attitude may convey the impression to future employers that they are not serious about their work.

Furthermore, that Filipina you’re seeing right now might have a different reaction to that question. She might get the impression that you’re lumping her in with the other Filipinos who are fond of running late.

“Do you live in a hut?”

Though the Philippines is known for its beaches and unspoiled natural resources, cities such as Manila and Cebu are also urbanized. Furthermore, the Philippines is gradually developing into a developed country with amenities to meet the needs of the Pinoy people.

Consider this: this country is a popular tourist destination for beachgoers from all over the world; it’s a no-brainer for them to take advantage of this.

“You must be good at singing”

Despite the fact that Filipinos like karaoke, not everyone can sing. They sing for the sheer joy of it on occasion.

It’s a great way to while away the hours during a party. When someone sings off-key, they become a source of amusement for everyone around them. Of course, they take it in stride because trying to hit the notes of a Celine Dion song is nothing new to them.

“You gained a bit of weight.”

During family gatherings, titas (a Pinoy name for aunt) would remark something like this, which Filipinas despise hearing.

Besides, this comes out on top of the list of what not to say to women.

Though Filipinos aren’t as strict as people in other nations when it comes to body standards, they can’t help but express their opinions when they see someone has changed.

It’s not a terrible infraction, but it might have you blocked from all of your girlfriend’s social media accounts. However, it is still impolite. And she’s probably already heard it a million times from her friends and family.

Other Filipinas may be unconcerned, but if you want to be safe, don’t make comments about her weight.

“You don’t look Filipino”

The Philippines is a cultural melting pot. Half-Chinese, half-American, half-Spanish, and a host of other nationalities are too numerous to enumerate in a single statement.

While there are still some pure-blood Filipinos, we can’t deny that the number of half-blood Filipinos is steadily growing, especially as online dating and interracial marriages become more widespread.

“My country is much better than yours”

Yes, the Philippines is a developing 3rd world nation, but there’s no need to point it out. Filipinos don’t appreciate being told their country is poor and how yours is so much better.

Even if you don’t mean it in a derogatory way, they’re aware of the nation’s current state. The poor living conditions is one of the many reasons why so many Filipinos aspire to work abroad so they can provide a better future for themselves and their family.

“Have you ever been intimate with someone?”

It might be normal in the U.S. to ask something like this to a person, but in the Philippines, it’s considered a very rude and personal question.

You don’t ask this unless you’re already in a close relationship with her. Because if you’re still in the acquaintance stage and you ask this question right off the bat, she will see you as someone who’s just looking for a one-night stand.

Making the Conversation Last

You can say a number of things to fill in the gaps in the conversation; it’s just a matter of selecting your words carefully.

It’s ok if you’re just attempting to break the ice by making a joke about stereotypes. But that’s only if you get the punchline correct.

Although Filipinos enjoy humor, you’ll need to establish a good rapport with her before you can comfortably joke around with her.